It took a long time before I was able to look at myself in the mirror and truly accept myself for who I am. I discovered that over the years, my lack of self-acceptance had been to unresolved feelings from traumatic experiences in my childhood, which had impacted negatively throughout my life, creating more trauma [...]
The brain may suffer from three types of disorder: 1. Stroke, traumatic brain injury and global ischemia. 2. Degenerative disease such as dementia, Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s Disease, and 3. Psychiatric conditions such as depression, anxiety and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). There is evidence that all these conditions can be beneficially affected by applying light to [...]
Boris Johnson scored a blinder last week when he publicly stated that police funds used to investigate historical child sex abuse had been 'spaffed up a wall'. I assume that 'spaffed' is the posh way of saying 'spunked', which is an unfortunate turn of phrase at the best of times, let alone in the context of child [...]
This year my creative work reached into art nude. I collaborated with a number of photographers, aiming to create images as expressions of liberated sexual empowerment. Why nude? And why erotic? From a personal perspective, one of my biggest challenges has been to transform carried sexual shame from the abusive experiences of my childhood. To [...]
This month I contributed to the national addiction magazine PIPEDOWN on facing emotional addiction issues such as sex addiction and anorexia nervosa. You can download Pipedown Issue 6 by clicking on this link. This is what I wrote: At the end of last year a very close friend of mine took her own life. She [...]
The devastating effects of process addiction can be as traumatic and destructive as substance abuse or alcoholism. Withdrawal and recovery from compulsive behaviours such as sex addiction, love addiction, anorexia or food addiction, and even financial debt, is in many cases, even more difficult than the excruciating withdrawal of breaking free of drugs or alcohol. Moreover, as process [...]
The Honourable Mary Parkinson was a game changer. Determined to live up to her courtesy pre-nominal, Mary was devoted to the very difficult task of facing recovery from addiction, publicly, one day at a time. Although the final months of Mary’s life were blighted with an aggressive form of depression, which concluded in her heartbreakingly [...]
Nothing is less sexy than sex and love addiction. At best I was hooked into self-destructive circles with unavailable partners or short-lived affairs. At rock bottom I was punching myself in the face and smacking my head against the wall. These days we live in a sex and love addicted society. Indulge in online casual [...]
This podcast is very special to me. It's a leading edge, honest and open dialogue between two human beings discussing trauma and recovery; all the more remarkable considering that: It's the first time Eleanor and I ever spoke We recorded it in one session taking less than 45 minutes We did it on Skype audio [...]
Dragon Kings Daughter: Adventures of Sex and Love Addict narrates a true story of how a spiritually focused process of recovery transformed suffering into happiness. Framed within the context of a Buddhist philosophy, it goes without saying therefore, that not only does the book articulate a 'spiritual awakening' it references 'sexual experience' too. It was interesting [...]