Boris Johnson scored a blinder last week when he publicly stated that police funds used to investigate historical child sex abuse had been 'spaffed up a wall'. I assume that 'spaffed' is the posh way of saying 'spunked', which is an unfortunate turn of phrase at the best of times, let alone in the context of child [...]
This year my creative work reached into art erotic nude. I collaborated with a number of photographers, aiming to create images as expressions of liberated sexual empowerment. Why nude? And why erotic? From a personal perspective, one of my biggest challenges was to transform carried sexual shame from the abusive experiences of my childhood. To pose nude on camera, 40 years [...]
This month I contributed to the national addiction magazine PIPEDOWN on facing emotional addiction issues such as sex addiction and anorexia nervosa. You can download Pipedown Issue 6 by clicking on this link. This is what I wrote: At the end of last year a very close friend of mine took her own life. She [...]
The devastating effects of process addiction can be as traumatic and destructive as substance abuse or alcoholism. Withdrawal and recovery from compulsive behaviours such as sex addiction, love addiction, anorexia or food addiction, and even financial debt, is in many cases, even more difficult than the excruciating withdrawal of breaking free of drugs or alcohol. Moreover, as process [...]
The Honourable Mary Parkinson was a game changer. Determined to live up to her courtesy pre-nominal, Mary was devoted to the very difficult task of facing recovery from addiction, publicly, one day at a time. Although the final months of Mary’s life were blighted with an aggressive form of depression, which concluded in her heartbreakingly [...]
Nothing is less sexy than sex and love addiction. At best I was hooked into self-destructive circles with unavailable partners or short-lived affairs. At rock bottom I was punching myself in the face and smacking my head against the wall. These days we live in a sex and love addicted society. Indulge in online casual [...]
This podcast is very special to me. It's a leading edge conversations between two human beings; all the more remarkable considering that: It's the first time Eleanor and I ever had a conversation We recorded it in one session taking less than 45 minutes We did it on Skype audio between London and Toronto After [...]
Dragon Kings Daughter: Adventures of Sex and Love Addict narrates a true story of how a spiritually focused process of recovery transformed suffering into happiness. Framed within the context of a Buddhist philosophy, it goes without saying therefore, that not only does the book articulate a 'spiritual awakening' it references 'sexual experience' too. It was interesting to [...]
It was always my natural inclination to want to relieve suffering. As a child I aimed to become a doctor, but as a natural Humanities student I was deterred from a career in Western medicine. In the early ’90s I volunteered for the Terrence Higgins Trust and spent 5 years as a buddy at the height of [...]
It was great to chat with Roifield Brown today on his Friday 15 show. Sharing my uplifting transformation of child sex abuse, addiction, suicide to unconditional love and absolute happiness, all told in my recently published memoir, DRAGON KING'S DAUGHTER: ADVENTURES OF A SEX AND LOVE ADDICT. Sound track includes Tori Amos "Silent All These Years" and [...]